Emphasis on flexibility

The trouble with many of these new approaches, however, was the tendency to assume that there was one right way to bring up children. That did not allow for the fact that children are different, parents are different and circumstances are different. The 'one-size-fits-all' approach does not recognise that each child comes into the world with its individual personality. Our goal in parenting, as many people increasingly see it, is to protect and nurture that individual identity as we socialise children to become responsible and co-operative adults.